在shared_ptr中使用自定义的deleter

我定义了一个具有成员模板的类

class DebugDelete {
    public:
        DebugDelete(std::ostream &s = std::cerr): os(s) { }
        // as with any function template, the type of T is deduced by the compiler
        template <typename T> void operator()(T *p) const
        {
           os << "deleting unique_ptr" << std::endl;
           delete p;
        }
    private:
        std::ostream &os;
};

当我将其应用于以下代码时，报告了一些错误：

class A {
    public:
        // [Error] class 'A' does not have any field named 'r'
        A(std::shared_ptr<std::set<int>> p): r(p) { } // 1: How can I use self-defined deleter to initialize r in constructor
        A(int i): s(new std::set<int>, DebugDelete()) { } // 2: OK, what is the difference between this constructor and 3
    private:
        // [Error] expected identifier before 'new'
        // [Error] expected ',' or '...' before 'new'
        std::shared_ptr<std::set<int>> r(new std::set<int>, DebugDelete()); // 3: error
        std::shared_ptr<std::set<int>> s;
};